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My name is Rylan.

I'm a genderflux neutrois greypanromantic asexual person just trying to get by in life. Singular they pronouns are appreciated.

If anyone wants to chat on Skype, I'm lerimore there. Just say your tumblr name and hi!

indiepopsicle:

breelandwalker:

Book Quotes: - Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix
"Oh I can’t wait to see McGonagall inspected,” said Ron happily. “Umbridge won’t know what’s hit her.” 

McGonagall is the Queen of Sass. All Hail McGonagall.

DO YOU NEED A COUGH DROP, DOLORES?!

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Anonymous asked:
I'm sorry if this is a really annoying question or one that you receive a lot, but I was just wondering if you could try to describe asexuality to me. I don't mean to be ignorant but I just have some questions about it and I wanted to try and understand that perspective a little more

shevathegun:

hey buddy this question isn’t annoying or one that i receive a lot, but thanks for prefacing your question with that, it alerts me to the fact that even though you aren’t knowledgeable on this topic, you’re sensitive enough to the situation to understand that it’s not necessarily my job to educate you on it, and that actually makes me more open to doing so

sorry, that was a wordy compliment, my point is: nice form, thank you for asking politely. i’m happy to answer your question

asexuality is a sexual orientation like heterosexuality, homosexuality, bi- and pansexuality, etc. people who are asexual do not experience sexual attraction. this means that, while they can observe that someone is aesthetically attractive, or experience sexual arousal, they do not generally experience those things in tandem. sexual attraction = “that person is hot, therefore i would like to engage in physical intimacy with them.” asexual people generally do not experience this feeling.

asexual people sometimes have a romantic orientation — that is, genders to whom they are most frequently romantically inclined, whom they would like to have a romantic relationship with. hetero-romantic aces are romantically attracted to people of different genders, homo-romantic people are romantically attracted to people of their same gender, bi- and pan-romantic people are attracted to people of all genders, etc. aromantic people are not attracted to people romantically, and do not desire to form romantic attachments to others. i am a panromantic asexual, and have previously had relationships with people of several different genders.

some asexual people can and do have sexual relationships. some don’t. some asexual people are repulsed by the act or implication of sex. some are not. i personally vary a lot on this from day to day. having sex does not make someone less asexual. the act of abstaining from sex is called abstinence, and it is a choice. asexuality is not a choice, or an act; it’s an orientation. 

one thing that’s important to understand about asexuality is that we live in a world that caters almost exclusively to allosexual people. sexuality is inherent in virtually all forms of media, education, and culture — in america, we are taught from a relatively young age that sex is an eventuality, and a “natural, human urge”, “a biological imperative” that all people will want eventually. people relate sex to something base and crucial, like food, water, and air. that ideology — which is very pervasive — can cause asexual people to feel “broken” or otherwise very alientated from the society in which they live, as though they are missing a vital component within them that everyone else has. i know that before i learned about asexuality, i thought i might be sick, or brain damaged — i constantly felt that everyone else had received a manual on how to be human that i had not.

people can be very rude about asexuality without meaning to, or without realizing it, mostly due to this ideology of sex being a natural thing that everyone secretly wants/needs. this ideology leads to many rude or offensive assumptions and stereotypes: that asexual people don’t exist, or that asexual people are allosexual people but haven’t realized it yet (aka “they’ve never had sex so they don’t know what they’re missing!” or “they just haven’t met the right person yet”); that asexual people are fundamentally broken and need to be fixed (by having sex); that asexual people are in fact just allosexual people with a low sex drive who need to stop whining (this is something that i think is said a lot particularly to dfab people); asexual people in relationships with allosexual partners are being cruel to those partners by refusing to have sex with them (aka “if you don’t have sex with them, they’ll find someone else who will”); etc. i have heard statements like these from people who love me very much, just because they don’t really understand how cruel what they’re saying is.

this ideology also makes its way into the lgbt community, which has never really been a welcoming space for asexual people. there are still debates over whether or not asexual people should be included in the community at all, and the widespread reappropriation of the a (as in “lgbtgia+”) as standing for “allies” — which, if you hadn’t guessed already, it absolutely does not… it stands for “asexual” — is a symptom of this problem. in many ways, asexual people are generally not allowed to exist anywhere, including queer spaces. asexual erasure is a big thing to be aware of.

one place where i have felt a real sense of asexual community is on this site. the ace presence on tumblr is strong and growing, since growing access to education on asexuality helps people identify themselves earlier and with greater accuracy. 

do you have any other questions you’d like to ask? i’d like to continue talking to you about this, if you’d like.

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bookgeekconfessions:

I wanted to double check that “The Cherry on Top” was a short novel or novella and I found this on uphillwriting.org. I think it’s very informative and hopefully you guys will find it useful!

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cosimakneehaus:

treehousecommittee:

mypunchbag:

pastel-gizibe:

shannonwest:

equalityandthecity:

(via Students help Emma Sulkowicz carry mattress to class in first collective carry)

Y E S 

IT IS GETTING BETTER

Why hasn’t the asshole left yet is my question?! Does he really think he’s that awesome for staying? Naw man, he needs to go

I AM SO HAPPY PEOPLE ARE STANDING UP FOR THIS GIRL!

this is so fucking important

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tinylilremus:

No but can you just imagine Mrs Weasley getting to the magical afterlife one day and the first thing she sees is a girl with red hair sprinting towards her.

For a fleeting moment she thinks it’s Ginny, but as the girl comes closer she recognises the kind smile and the emerald eyes that are shining with tears. It’s Lily Potter.

Lily pulls Mrs Weasley into a tight hug and can only whisper three words before dissolving into tears.

"Thank you, Molly."

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HOW TO COOK THE CORRECT AMOUNT OF PASTA:

sarcastic-sanity:

1. Pour out how much you think you need.

2. Wrong.

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feelknower1993:

FCKH8 sucks and i hope everyone who sees that photoset of ferguson kids with t-shirts saying stuff about race just looks at the gifs and doesn’t click anything in the text

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doubleadrivel:

weliveonfiction:

flatbear:

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counterpunches:

Gordon Ramsay is my favorite.

i just want to hug all of them

Fun story. I cooked for this dude, once. I did my kitchen apprenticeship at the family-style restaurant of one of New Zealand’s premiere chefs, and he knew Ramsay really well. He was in New Zealand for a few weeks, and Martin brought him by the restaurant to check it out. It was right on the beach, fucking gorgeous. I was the only one there (apprentice = bitch work = 4am starting shifts), and they asked me to whip up some breakfast for them. It was SUPER simple, fried fish, eggs cooked in bread, sausages. He was incredibly gracious and kind, asked me to join them (I couldn’t, too much work to do, so they sat at the kitchen window so they could talk to me), and was super interested in hearing about my english grandma, who had taught me how to cook. I won’t hear a single bad word against this man, for all of his kitchen hysterics, he treated me like an equal.

gordon ramsay fandom

If you’re not in the Gordon Ramsay fandom you’re wrong.

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yigers:

its lady and the tramp spaghetti scene

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handglownglassbone:

when an entire class of elementary school kids gets on stage to half-ass a performance on their recorders for their parents in the audience, would that technically be dissonant/freeform/chaotic enough to qualify as musique concrete? was i accidentally a noise musician for a day in 3rd grade? are all elementary school music teachers really just radical outsider artists on the low?

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